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The Power of Hard Feedback: Will You Reject or Receive It?

The Power of Hard Feedback: Will You Reject or Receive It?

February 25, 2025 Posted by John Barrett

The Power of Hard Feedback: Will You Reject or Receive It?

Receiving tough feedback is never easy. It can sting, frustrate, and even challenge our self-perception. But as leaders, how we respond to feedback determines whether we grow or stay stagnant. The truth is, when faced with hard feedback, you only have two options:

  1. Reject it – Become defensive, deflect the feedback, and remain as you are while dismissing the other person.
  2. Receive it – Reflect, extract value, and use it as a stepping stone for growth.

The choice is yours, but only one of these options will make you a stronger, more effective leader.

Feedback Is Not About Agreement; It’s About Action

One of the biggest misconceptions about feedback is that you have to agree with it for it to be valuable. That’s not the case. Feedback isn’t always 100% right, but it always has something to teach you. The real question is: What are you going to do with it? Will you let it shape you into a better leader, or will you reject it and stay the same?

Mature, strong leaders understand that feedback is a gift—even when it’s hard to hear. They don’t react impulsively; instead, they take time to process and decide how to move forward. Here’s how they do it:

1. Listen Without Defensiveness

It’s human nature to defend yourself when someone critiques your actions, decisions, or leadership. But great leaders resist that urge. Instead of justifying or making excuses, they listen with an open mind. They seek to understand the other person’s perspective, rather than immediately dismissing it, even if they disagree with it.

2. Reflect and Extract the Truth

Not all feedback is accurate, but almost all feedback contains a nugget of truth. The key is to separate emotions from evaluation. Ask yourself:

  • Is there something in this feedback that I can learn from?
  • Even if I don’t fully agree, is there a perspective I haven’t considered?
  • How do my actions or leadership impact others?
  • What can I do better next time to avoid this?

3. Decide How to Navigate Forward

Once you’ve reflected, decide your next steps. Strong leaders do one of two things:

  • If the feedback is valid: They course-correct their actions, behavior, or communication.
  • If the feedback is off-base: They communicate back to the person in a way that aligns understanding and expectations.

In both cases, leaders don’t ignore the feedback; they address it in a way that strengthens relationships rather than damaging them.

The Mark of a Strong Leader

Respected leaders don’t fear hard feedback—they welcome it. Did you get that? They welcome feedback! They understand that growth requires discomfort, and that sometimes, the most painful feedback is the catalyst for their greatest breakthroughs.

They also recognize that how they respond to feedback sets the tone for their teams. If they model openness and a willingness to grow, their people will do the same. This creates a culture of continuous improvement, where feedback isn’t feared but embraced.

Are You Growing or Stagnant?

The next time you receive feedback—especially the kind that stings—pause before reacting. Ask yourself: Am I rejecting this out of defensiveness, or am I willing to receive it and grow?

The greatest leaders choose growth. Which will you choose?

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The Bold/Humble Rule

Transforming Fear Into Strength: 7 Insights for Leaders

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3 Things Great Leaders Don't Do

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