Flip The Script

Our internal dialogue has a massive impact on our mental well-being and overall outlook on life. In fact, the most important person you will ever talk to is…yourself.

Negative self-talk can be the major roadblock to personal growth, happiness, and ultimately success. However, with practice and a shift in mindset, we can flip the script and turn negative self-talk into a positive, empowering force that will propel you into future success.

Let’s be honest…most people are terrible to themselves. They would never talk to another person the way they do about themselves. We tend to be our own harshest critics, constantly berating ourselves for perceived shortcomings, failures, or mistakes. The irony is that if we spoke to others the way we spoke to ourselves, it would be considered rude, hurtful, and damaging to their self-esteem. We would be quick to offer support, encouragement, and kindness to a friend or loved one who is going through a difficult time. However, when it comes to ourselves, we often lack that same level of compassion.

Imagine if you flipped the script and treated yourself the way you treat others. What if you replaced those harsh, self-deprecating thoughts with words of encouragement and support? Start by consciously practicing self-compassion. Treat yourself as you would a great friend or loved one. Offer words of kindness, understanding, and patience.

Here are some tips to flip the script and start shifting your mindset to a more positive, successful one:

Become More Aware Of Your Thoughts

Start by becoming aware of your negative self-talk patterns. Pay attention to the thoughts and beliefs you have about yourself. Notice when you are being overly critical or engaging in negative self-judgment. It probably happens more than you think. I have a good friend who is a personal trainer, and podcaster, that was recently telling me how he recognized the importance of keeping himself in a positive state of mind at all times. He actually started to set an alarm on his phone every hour to help remind him to check his mental state. When the alarm went off, he reminded himself to reset his thoughts in the right way. Whatever you do, have a system to reflect and keep your thoughts constructive.

Challenge Negative Thoughts

Once you recognize negative self-talk, challenge it. Ask yourself if there is solid evidence to support the negative thought. Often, negative thoughts are based on assumptions, generalizations, or past experiences that may not be relevant to the present situation. Don’t give negative thoughts space in your brain. The more room you allow for it, the more it will destroy you. If you give negativity an inch, it will take a mile. Shut out negativity by making room for positivity; you can’t live with both.

Reframe Your Thoughts

Focus on the good, not the bad. Focus on what you do have, not what you don’t have. Focus on what’s going right, not always on what’s going wrong. Replace negative, self-defeating thoughts with positive, constructive ones. Here are some examples of how to reframe your negative thoughts:

Negative thought: “I can’t handle this challenge”
Reframed positive thought: “I am resilient and capable of overcoming challenges. I have successfully overcome difficult situations before, and I can do it again.”

Negative thought: “Everyone is judging me”
Reframed positive thought: “I am not responsible for other people’s opinions. I focus on being authentic and true to myself, knowing that I am enough.”

Negative thought: “I’m not a good enough leader”
Reframed positive thought: “I have unique strengths and qualities as a leader. I continuously learn and grow, seeking feedback and developing my skills to inspire and empower my team.”

Negative thought: “I always make mistakes”
Reframed positive thought: “Mistakes are opportunities for growth and learning. I am constantly improving and becoming better at what I do.”

Negative thought: “This problem is insurmountable.”
Reframed positive thought: “This challenge presents an opportunity for creative problem-solving. Together, we can find innovative solutions and grow stronger as a team.”

Flip the script and start living at a much higher level in your thinking, and you’ll elevate your success!